Congratulations! You’re engaged and have fixed the date for your once-in-a-lifetime event. You’re ready to create a day full of lasting memories and want to start planning for this big milestone ASAP. But being a first-timer, you must’ve been wondering where to begin. Fret not – we’ve got you covered! Let’s see what every Singapore bride should do for a start.
Know That a Small Wedding Doesn’t Translate To a Less Meaningful One
For many, weddings happen only once in a lifetime. So, no doubt that they want to cherish the day forever, hence the luxurious and expensive wedding soirees. But is it indispensable? Well, if you can afford it, then go for it. But, if you’re an ordinary bride who comes from different walks of life, then you have to know that:
You Don’t Need To Host A Grand Wedding Reception Just Because Everyone Else Is Having One
And you certainly don’t need that because of the photos. Yes, all the wedding images you’ve ever seen on Pinterest or Instagram involve fresh flowers thrown all over the ballroom, gorgeous floor-to-ceiling wedding dais, bridesmaids with matching outfits and bouquets, etc. However, if you don’t have all that, that’s fine too!
Of Course, You Might Feel The Pressure Of Wedding Trends
But keep in mind that a wedding is not the end, it’s the beginning of a more fabulous adventure, which requires a life long commitment and tonnes of money. So don’t overspend now. Spending beyond what you can afford is, after all, the foolproof way to get broke in no time. And don’t take wedding loans, ever!
You don’t have to set up a massive faux ramed wall for retro-themed photo booth just because it’s the cool thing to do. Even if you don’t have a giant buffet spread or dessert table, your guests will surely enjoy themselves. Tie your unique personality into your wedding – only follow the trends that you really want to!
Also, You’re Not Obligated To Involve Everyone At The Wedding.
It’s totally okay if you don’t feel like having your second cousins and acquaintances at your wedding. After all, it’s your big day, and you fork out own pocket money for it. It’s your call to have an intimate wedding reception with just your loved ones.
Also, don’t be swayed by unnecessary offers for a ‘friendship price’. Express gratitude graciously and say you’ve already made plans. Remember, just because your wedding day is small, doesn’t mean that it isn’t special.
Know How to Get Started
Now that you’ve realized what a wedding truly is, it’s time to get serious about strategic planning. Start with the basics. You should analyze where you’re now – what ‘kind’ of wedding you can afford. Once you have your budget, then you can check out our tips on what to consider when choosing a Malay wedding package.
Focus On the Things That Matter
You can start planning on a vision board with all the pretty pictures and fun ideas as most brides do. But let’s not get preoccupied with the little details and overlook the big ones. Before you lose your sanity, attempting to incorporate every single trend into your wedding, take a step back and start over with a clean slate. Focus on the things that make a huge impact, like, you know, a wedding venue.
Accept That You Can’t Please Everyone
If you’re blessed with wealth and money isn’t a problem for you, you could definitely host the biggest wedding of the year to satisfy yourself, your families and friends. After all, who doesn’t dream of throwing a grand celebration? But if budget is your largest constraint, then it’s best to wholeheartedly accept that you can’t please everyone.
Indeed, Everyone Has An Opinion On Your Wedding
Your grandmother, your aunties, your colleagues, your neighbours will most likely have so many thoughts about what you should do for your wedding and whatnot. However, realize that you’re entitled to your own opinion too! Although, that doesn’t mean that you can say something to their face.
So, Sit With Them And Labour The Point
The elders, particularly, mean well and try to be kind and helpful. So give them respect and talk through your plan politely. Perhaps, you could actually use a little insight at some points.
Acquire Event Planning Skills
Learning how to plan, especially if you’re new to organizing an event, can be a frustrating experience. The first thing you should do to acquire planning skills for your big event is to be organized – always keep your timeline on schedule and budget in check.
Then, you’ll need a vast network of friends to get to know various event professionals, such as food caterers, photographers, bridal makeup artists, decór and beyond. So, how to start building up your network?
Join Local Wedding Planning Groups
Yes, every Singapore bride is recommended to join local wedding planning groups like the SingaporeBrides Forum. It’s a great source to get word-of-mouth referrals for best wedding vendors, compare package deals, grab second-hand wedding items, or simply seek for someone who actually understands your issues.
DIY A Few Things, But Not Everything
Next, you can absolutely venture into the world of DIY and add your personal touch to a few things like invitation cards, wedding favours or the hantaran. Undeniably, it feels much more genuine and heartfelt.
But, You Need To Leave The Rest For Real Experts.
Or you’ll get burned out. In fact, you can consider hiring a wedding planner if you’re financially able, or at least a day-of coordinator. It never hurts to ask for help when you truly need it.
Enjoy Every Moment Of What Is Supposed To Be One Of The Most Exciting Times Of Your Life
Last but not least, all brides-to-be should enjoy the journey of planning the big day. You should know by now that good stress is still a stress. So get enough sleep, take care of your physical body and maintain your emotional health. These are the only ways you can brace yourself, keep your spirits up and rise above the vortex of wedding planning stress.
So, all the best!