How much to give in a Malay Wedding

Are you attending a Malay wedding in Singapore and wondering how much to give as a gift? You’re not alone. Giving the right amount in a Malay wedding can be a bit tricky.

In this article, we will explore the etiquette and guidelines for giving money-packets in Malay weddings, helping you navigate this aspect of the celebration with ease. Whether you’re a close friend, distant relative, or colleague of the couple, understanding the cultural expectations will ensure you both thoughtful and appropriate. Join us as we delve into the various factors that influence the amount you should give as a gift in a Malay wedding. Let’s make sure you’re fully prepared to celebrate this joyous occasion while showing your respect and best wishes to the newlyweds.

Understanding the concept of “Berkat” in Malay weddings

In Malay weddings, the act of giving gifts is called “Berkat”. This tradition holds deep cultural and religious significance, symbolizing blessings, well-wishes, and support for the couple as they embark on their new journey together. It is important to understand that the amount you give should reflect your relationship with the couple and your ability to contribute. Here are some factors to consider when determining the gift amount.

Firstly, your relationship with the couple plays a significant role in deciding the appropriate amount. If you are a close friend or a family member, it is customary to give a more substantial compared to a distant relative or colleague. This demonstrates your close connection to the couple and your willingness to support them in their new chapter of life. Many people missed out writing their names inside the money-packet. This instill a moment of joy when the couple dig into the packets and believe me, they will remember you. Especially if the amount is signicant.

Another factor to consider is your financial capability. It is crucial to give what you can afford comfortably, without causing any financial strain. Malay weddings are joyous occasions, and the focus should be on celebrating love and unity rather than the monetary value of the gifts. It is better to give a heartfelt and thoughtful gift within your means than to give an extravagant gift that may not be sustainable for you. Remember, it’s the thought that counts, and your sincerity will be appreciated more than the monetary value.

Lastly, it is important to consider the customs and traditions of the Malay community. While there are no strict rules regarding the amount, typically in denominations of S$10, or S$50. However, it is always best to consult with someone familiar with Malay customs or the couple themselves to ensure your gift aligns with their cultural expectations.

Enough of long reading, now you already have a better understanding and context, here is the simple guide for you, how much you should give in the money-packet:-

If you are a:-

• Friends, colleagues – S$20 to S$50
• Close friends, friends for a long time – S$50 to S$100
• Relatives – S$50 to S$100
• Distant acquaintance – S$20 to $150

Look, there is no right or wrong amount, but hope the list above helps you decide based on your financial capabilities too.

If you are wondering what type of money-packet, do not overthink, any form of envelop that fits the money without folding or folded. (doesn’t matter if you fold or not fold the money)

Best if you just reuse your old money-packets or envelopes you have running around

Consider the venue that is held

You might want to put into account where is the wedding is being held, is it a hotel? Is it a restaurant? Or is it a more traditional void-deck/multipurpose hall?

This information can be identified the moment you have been invited, it is a good gesture that you determine the venue type base on the address.

If you are in for a treat in a hotel and restaurants, consider adding a few S$10’s.

Of course, again, please do so within your financial ability and comfort. It is not necessary to burden your financials.

Conclusion: Celebrating love and unity in Malay weddings

Attending a Malay wedding is a beautiful experience filled with love, joy, and cultural traditions. Giving the right amount as a gift is an important aspect of showing your respect and best wishes to the newlyweds. By understanding the concept of “Berkat” and considering factors such as your relationship with the couple and your financial capability, you can determine an appropriate gift amount. Remember, it is the thought, sincerity, and effort behind the money-gift that truly matter.

When presenting the money-packet during the wedding ceremony, follow the etiquette of using both hands, offering your congratulations, and including a personal note or card. These small gestures go a long way in conveying your heartfelt sentiments to the couple. And above all, prioritize sincerity and thoughtfulness. Consider the couple’s use for future needs for a new phase in life.

In conclusion, Malay weddings are celebrations of love and unity, and your presence and support are invaluable to the couple. By understanding the cultural expectations and embracing the spirit of giving, you can contribute to the joyous occasion while showing your respect and best wishes to the newlyweds. So, go ahead and celebrate the union of two souls, knowing that your thoughtful and heartfelt gift will be appreciated and cherished for years to come.